Mencari (menerima) Pasangan Hidup

"Jika kamu ingin memiliki pasangan hidup sesempurna yang kamu inginkan, maka pacarilah bayangan yang muncul saat kamu menatap cermin."
Hiiiii sounds creepy karena malah keinget film Occulus. Euw.
Mungkin disaat kamu merasa tidak lagi bahagia, atau tidak lagi dibahagiakan, atau mungkin sedikit jenuh dengan pasanganmu, mungkin itu artinya kamu belum menerima dia apa adanya. Masih menginginkan yang lebih. Lebih disini bukan berarti menginginkan orang lain yang lebih dibandingkan dia, tapi menginginkan dia yang lebih baik.
Gini gini, contohnya kamu menginginkan pacarmu lebih perhatian, lebih halus, lebih wangi, lebih licin.....lah malah iklan rapika. Ya pokoknya menginginkan dia menjadi seperti yang kamu mau, itu sebenarnya menyakiti hati pasangamu.
So, mari merenung.
Setiap orang dilahirkan tidak sempurna, maka dari itulah Tuhan menciptakan berpasang-pasangan. Kamu pun sangat jauh dari sempurna. Sangat sangat sangat jauh. Jadi kenapa kamu mengharapkan ia lebih sementara kamu sendiri sangat kurang?

Amin

Join " what kind of doctor could you be?" quiz in Facebook and suddenly surprised with the result.

What shown as my result was similar with my goal.

What kind of doctor I could be?

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An Oncologist

"An oncologist specializes in dealing with cancer. It's a challenging, and often heart-breaking, medicine to practice. You have to be good at empathizing with people, but also a strong attention to detail, and a general passion for science (how else will we ever find a cure?). You also have to have a strong emotional foundation to deal with the everyday tragedy - and to really be overjoyed at the news of remission and recovery."

Could I be?

Think the opposite, girl!

Whatever all ladies were thinking on their relationships, they were looking at it the wrong way. Ladies might feel secure by their intellectual capacity, independency, empathy, and caring attitude. But hey, those are not not something a guy would look for. At least, those are not the most important thing.

According to a guy I respect, guys look for comfort. They already handle stressful decisions throughout the day working, they don't need anymore arguments that would only show how intelligent the girl is, or any issues that force them to use the brain heavily. They need comforting conversations, they need not whines nor complicated story on how the girl dealt with her insecurities. 

So we might be dealing with this stuff wrong all along. 

The question I have yet been able to answer is the fact that ladies love to share a lot of things, including how her day went, or how frustrating the work was, etc. How do you then combine these two contrasting tendencies?

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